Get to know various wedding preparations that should not be missed

 

Preparations before marriage

A solid marriage requires a strong team. To achieve this, you and your partner need to make a number of preparations before marriage. Starting from mental to physical preparation.

Mental preparation

Various changes will await you after marriage, such as lifestyle, mindset, duties, and obligations. Entering this transitional period, mental preparation is needed so that you and your partner are not surprised when living together later.

Here are some mental preparations that need to be considered to help you design a new life:

• Improve yourself

In a marriage, the husband and wife are a team. Each must try to maintain cohesiveness in order to realize a harmonious household life.

One of the things that must be built to create a solid team is trying to be the best version of yourself.

Cultivate positive qualities in yourself that will be very useful in later domestic life. Patience, persistence, commitment, loyalty, responsibility, and honesty to name a few.

• Sharpen your communication skills

Every household will definitely not avoid conflict. This is why you must master effective communication skills

Learn to express feelings openly and listen to one another. When there is a misunderstanding, try to resolve it by asking kind questions rather than being reactive or getting angry right away.

• Take prenuptial courses

In some countries, pre-marriage courses have become commonplace and are part of pre-marriage preparation. Meanwhile in Indonesia, the government is planning for pre-marriage training and medical tests for brides-to-be in 2020.

There is nothing wrong with taking a pre-wedding class with your partner. In this program, you will not only learn to identify yourself and your partner more deeply but also understand the ups and downs that often occur in a household and their solutions.

• Talk about children

"When have children?" be one of the many questions that your family and relatives will certainly ask after you get married. Regardless of the pressure from outside, you and your partner are obliged to talk about children before marriage so as not to cause problems later on.

Talk about whether you both want to have children to continue the offspring. If so, when would that be a likely time? How many children do you want to have? If there is a problem with fertility, are you and your partner willing to adopt it?

• Be open about finances

Financial issues are often the main reason for divorce. Therefore, do not consider financial matters taboo and make it a part of preparations before marriage.

Before getting married, discuss openly each other's financial situation. For example, routine income, assets, and financial problems being faced.

Also talk about financial-related plans in the future. For example, investments that might be made, financial management in households, and others.

• Set boundaries

Each individual has different points of view and desires. There are times when this triggers unnecessary arguments in the household. For that, make boundaries regarding personal space before marriage.

For example, decide whether a partner can keep in contact with an ex-lover, how long a husband or wife can hang out with their friends, and how much time it will take for me.

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